"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me".
How many times have you said that? I'm sure I said this aloud and in my head on quite a few occasions!
Do you still believe this? I don't! That's sad really! I wished I still believed that. I was an adult when I realized words hurt and probably they hurt most of all. It was a hard, sad, hurtful lesson to learn and to work thru.
We never want to see our children hurt. This past week someone close to Lacey said some very harsh, hurtful things to her. That's Lacey's story to tell, but I can say it killed me. It hurt to see her so hurt and wounded.
Zane and I shed tears, we wanted to cause harm, we hurt, we were angry, we prayed. We went to see Lacey several days to check on her. We talked and text a lot. I knew she was down and having a difficult time and that made her being separated from us even worse. We also knew that we needed to let her learn and grow and work thru this on her own too. See? I am sort of learning this parenting an adult thing!
Late Saturday night she decided she wanted to come home. I am so happy she did. She was able to talk without distractions. She was able to go to church at her home church, with her church family that she has been with since birth.
Words can hurt! Words can also love and heal!
That morning she said she was fine but her eyes deceived her! There were 4-5 people at church who knew what happened. She was shown so much love and encouragement by them.
Yesterday, I watched her eyes, which had no shine because of hurtful words, regain their sparkle by words of love. I watched her transform back to herself.
We all make our own choice on the words we say to others. Some times emotions take over and we say mean things. Some times we mean well, but say something offensive or hurtful at the moment. We need to train ourselves to say nice words, loving words, encouraging words no matter how we are feeling!
Proverbs 12:18 “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Now that Lacey is off at college, I find myself with way too much time to think. For me, thinking leads to worrying and worrying leads to worst case scenario. So I thought maybe blogging and putting some of my thoughts down might help myself. You never know, at some point I might come up with a clever thought or idea in the process!